Childhood...

Well,of-late i had done some reading and been more observant as to see for myself how the manner of childhood does indeed effect the traits, as the personal evolves.
Its common knowledge as to how keen observers the children are, but as subtle or candid their acknowledgement in child's behavior be, its very incomprehensible. At least, I find it so, and have had some of my friends point it out to me. I believe this incapacity being equally predominant in my other male-friends too. Perhaps that does reinforce in a manner how deterministically important a role of mother is. That is too say, statically speaking, fairer sex seems to be more cognizant in recognizing such patterns in kid's expression.
A successful career is often not what i consider as the best finished goods. A wholesome character would be more like it. As i have observed, a brilliant mother grooms there kids to be more suitable so than perhaps similarly endowed father. Just a hypothesis it all is i must note here

Certain case studies :
* A bitter tongue perhaps may be just a representation of insecurity & could be traced down to childhood. Perhaps may be if such insecurity gives way when a good friend(s) fills up that lacuna or may perhaps a loving spouse, either ways such instrument could bring out that golden soul.

*Money matters - frugality could be traced squeezed pocket money; Could also be a contrarian reflection too i.e. condescension towards money situations could warrant a spendthrift public portrayal.

*Level of ease with socializing, predominantly with fairer sex -- This could be a possibility if a person has been to some strict catholic, boys school etc. They see the other sex after a prolonged period of non-exposure. Such events could result in perhaps marrying the first girl you befriend (not they cudn't still be the happiest of couples!!). Or may be people meeting from cross-disciplines i.e arts students meeting a science one - resultant allurement could be an outcome of appreciation for an altogether different perspective of most trivial things.

Kids need a lot of time with there parents. I do NOT think going out to eat, or some movie is an all-encompassing-answer to that. Its more of that time they enrich themselves with your sheer presence. That may even not involve a conversation. Perhaps the way you read, the manner in which you arrange everyday articles - books, utensils etc.

Also, kids should have that little bit of special feeling to themselves that they bask in unconditional affection of there parents but should feel at a centrestage of a spotlight so that, well, they can behave like kids, throwing such worldly cautions to the wind as to the manner they dress, play etc.

At times i wonder, if its better to have two kids- a boy & a girl. Yes, population concerns overwhelm us. But this trivial idea seemed so much important when i saw asking his sis to hold up the kite while he was at strings:))


Its not meant to be an advisory of any sort. It just a perspective to grooming up which seems like no task as to be taken in a stride. And thus, responsibility warranting a lot of self-discipline.